Is burnout defeating you?

How many of these are true for you?

I enjoy my work and have enough energy left at the end of the work day for my personal life.
I am making the impact I want to make on the world.
I am doing a great job as a leader.
I am following my passions, which makes my life feel exciting and prosperous.
I have regular fun with friends.
I have a satisfying love (and sex) life that includes deep connection, healthy communication, and continuous growth.
[For Dads] I have great relationships with my kids that includes both fun and serious time together.

This isn't a scientific poll. But if you didn't nod and say "uh huh" to as many of these as you'd like, maybe we should talk. I can help.

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Burnout is affecting men in record numbers.

So if you're a guy who's feeling exhausted, constantly spinning your wheels and getting nowhere, and convinced that "it just is what it is", don't worry.

You're not alone.

Here's what else you need to know ... you can get out of it. But you're gonna have to get uncomfortable to really root it out. Why?

Because burnout grows in layers through thousands of decisions we make over a period of years. To break out of it we have to deal with some fundamental changes.

Expansive Intimacy: How “Tough Guys” Defeat Burnout is many things.

It’s a memoir of my personal journey through burnout.

It’s a research project that unearthed a difficult revelation that told me I had struck a root cause of men’s burnout.

And it’s a roadmap to a new way, one that allows a guy to maintain his “tough guy” status while enjoying the joy, liberation, and richness of a life lived intimately.

Read the Intro

Learn more about the book

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Just so you know it's real

I didn't end up writing a book on burnout, shame and intimacy just for fun.

I wrote it because life keeps coming at me with big-time challenges. (And it always will.)

No. I wrote it for moments like the one in this video, shot in September of '22.

I always will need the tools that Expansive Intimacy offers me to stay on top of life.

I'm Jim

Men's Burnout & Leadership Coach

It took me 8 years to figure out how to end my burnout for good.

The way I got there might surprise you at first. But once you hear what I learned along the way, I think you'll see why it works so well.

If you're ready to get out of burnout for good, too, grab half an hour of my time and I'll explain what I mean and how it works.

Proud to have supported:

“What got you here won’t get you there.”

- Marshall Goldsmith

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Burnout-Proof Your Organization

Over a third of all workers are struggling with burnout symptoms. So you shouldn't be surprised to find it living in your business. There are three common approaches to take:

1. Ignore it.

2. Expect your people to deal with it.

3. Lead your organization out of burnout.

One of these approaches works best. I can help you make it happen.

1:1 Coaching For Leaders

Life at the top is hard. It can feel like there's no place to turn for help. Because of that, leaders carry a unique blend of stress. I know. I've been there personally and I've coached dozens of other leaders over the years.

Instead of going it alone -- and risking burning yourself out -- let's talk about how I can provide you with the guidance you need to be a more successful, and less stressed, leader.

Men's Groups

There's some striking research out there that reveals men are in a "friendship recession". So many of the guys I work with back up the data. They've gotten too busy to maintain the relationships that provide ballast for the hard work that dominates their lives. Oftentimes, they also report strain with kids, spouses and other family.

I wrote the book on men's ability to create massive shifts in their lives by investing in relationships. My groups are an extension of that work -- and an answer for men's isolation.

In my sessions with Jim he helped me figure out what to let go of, and had a lot of advice on which direction to focus instead. Week by week, I was able to clear out the parts of my stress that I could control and improve my situation.

- Chris B., CEO

Jim forces me to answer questions that I need to work through and address, but would avoid if left to my own devices.

- Noah Smith, CEO

Jim not only helped me remember the value of my unconventional career and life journey, how I learn, and my outlook on things. He also introduced me to new tools and new strategies for getting through the modern work world and life!

- D. M., Tech Consultant

I worked with Jim as the coach for a small group and it was excellent. Of course, he was well prepared on our calls, leading the group members on a journey to better understand ourselves and our inner motivators.

It was a great experience and I highly recommend working with Jim.